Am I the only person who behaves online to you, as I would if I were talking to you face to face?
I suspect not - but events lately have made me wonder.
I used to be a member of a "green" forum - (some of you may also be members of this forum, so I am not going to tell you the name, as I do not do that kind of thing, however much I might feel I want to!)
but...having been a moderator on this forum, which was a huge part of my online life for a long time, I found out by chance that a few of the other moderators held ( and had stated in a closed area of the forum) really rather nasty and wrong views about me - eg:- that I was a compulsive liar; that I ignored my child so I could spend many hours a day online; that I made up or exaggerated stuff to make myself look more important - to put it in a nutshell that I basically was an really rather unpleasant, lying person...
Some of these people have actually met me in real life and seen our set up here at Compost Mansions - I have exchanged gifts, sent birthday cards to them or their children etc etc ...unusual I know but I actually have always been keen to offer my place for meet ups so have actually met quite a few of my blogging or forum "friends"
Anyway, I found out about this rather nasty stuff , which made me feel very upset and basically poisoned my interactions with these other people- and so I complained to the forum owner ( another erstwhile
"friend")
Did he help? Did he censure the other posters? No - he banned me - for no good reason I can see other than I found out about all this and asked him about it in a series of private messages.
AND- - after banning me he (admin /owner) then told my ( ex ) fellow mods that I left - NOT TRUE - I was banned, with no warning, so I could not even retrieve my personal messages, emails, contact details of friends etc....
What an unkind thing to do to someone.
Sometimes I despair of the "online life" - it all seems so very petty and playground like!
Anyway - that is just one of the many reasons I have been inactive online recently - I was really very upset by this issue and the implications of it and I also have had a load of stuff going on in my real life which is not very great, as well....Life is pretty shitty, sometimes.
Sometimes,despite the various upbeat sayings about it - if life deluges you with lemons there are just too many of them to make lemonade from - you just end up, instead, with bruises from the impact and sore skin all over, from the juice..
11 comments:
I--want to say several different things. But I don't know exactly what to say. So I shall say nothing. Instead I shall send you a hug!!I know it is a small comfort.
MM, I would LOVe to know what you want to say! I am really interested in people's opinions over this...
And THANK YOU, for the hug - much appreciated!
I think that is an awful thing to have done to you. Almost like being convicted of a crime without a trial or chance to defend yourself.
Hugs to you.
Judy
When some people feel negative about themselves they attempt to feel better by grouping together to bring another down. You are well out of it. Accepts our mental hugs and accept that you are better knowing the truth about false friends so you can be with true friends x
Hey don't let these people get you down - if you ask me you are better off staying away from these silly groups, continue doing your own thing which you do well. I love your blog so chin up, carry on and forget it.
Sending hugs from all at the farm x
*wince* I'd say I was surprised...but I'm not. Had my own problems with the place.
Keep doing your thang.
@Judy - yes exactly! Except...I hadn't actually even done anything wrong.:-(
@Linda and Nunnery Farm - Thank you for the virtual hugs and support :-)
@Oya's Daughter - Yes, I know, you know, how I feel as similar happened to you...my sympathies them and now to you! Nasty, isn't it?
Oh well...I have a backlog of things to post about of much more interest and importance, will be doing so during November I hope :-)
Incredible that anyone could be so childish and vindictive - especially those who had enjoyed your hospitality!
I hope you can shake off any lingering bad taste from this and remember that many are proud to be your blog friends.
{Hugs}
I had to make my blog private as I had a tag team of what I presume was women, who left comments on my blog that got more and more evil and nasty as the months went on.
In the end I was sooooo fed up of just deleting their evil thoughts that I just went private. And what upset them in the beginning? A book review I did on the Tine Travellers Wife. A BOOK FOR GOODNESS SAKE. and the flood gate opened. I ignored them for 6 months. and then I had enough.
I swear they must have spent hours berating me, my posts, how dare I go on holiday... I am sooooo sorry that you have to put up with that. Who wastes that much time. Havent they got anything else to do than to make such stuff up.
I hope you have a better time. Just blog loads we will comment and play nice. Promise.
My only thoughts are that you must lead a much more fulfilled life than they who only have time to gossip. You will be better off without them.
Hugs
Big Hug...
Missed you
Spar...
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